Why New Leaders Struggle with Clarity and Confidence
You just stepped into your first leadership role.
You’re excited to prove yourself, guide a team, and deliver results.
But soon, something feels off:
- Tasks don’t get done the way you expected
- Deadlines slip, and urgency isn’t understood
- Team members ask repeat questions, or say nothing and silently miss the mark
You start wondering, did I say it wrong, or did they just not get it?
Here’s the truth:
Many new leaders assume giving a task is the same as setting an expectation. It’s not.
Without defining what success looks like, how the work should be done, and when it’s due, you’re not delegating, you’re gambling.
Jorge Loebl, founder of Revolving Change, says it clearly:
“Leadership is not about throwing tasks at people and hoping they understand. It is about ensuring alignment, securing commitment, and following up consistently. If you assume people know what to do without checking, you will fail as a leader.”
Expectation-setting is your credibility engine.
And it’s easier than you think to start doing it well.
The Two Habits That Undermine New Leaders
If you’re struggling to get your team on the same page, it’s likely one of these habits is quietly at play:
1. Fear of Sounding Like a Micromanager
New leaders often hold back on details, afraid of seeming overbearing.
They assume their team will figure it out.
2. Assuming Everyone Thinks the Same Way
Emerging leaders forget that their team brings different perspectives, habits, and interpretations.
A simple instruction can lead to five different outcomes.
Jorge puts the responsibility where it belongs:
“New leaders need to ask themselves, ‘Did my team actually understand what I meant?’ Because if they did not, the failure is on me, not them.”
When Good Intentions Lead to Broken Trust
A newly promoted team lead assigns a product presentation.
They say:
“Please prep the slides for our next client meeting.”
By the deadline, the slides come back incomplete.
Key data is missing. The branding is off. The tone is wrong.
The team member tried hard but guessed wrong.
What went wrong?
- No clarity on what the presentation should include
- No midway check-in
- No confirmation of understanding
Jorge summed it up perfectly:
“If you say ‘I need a report’ and assume the other person knows what details to include, what format to use, and how it should be structured, you are setting yourself up for failure.”
The fix is a clear, simple process you can use every time.
A Proven Framework for New Leaders to Set Clear Expectations
To avoid misalignment and build trust, use our Discover, Design, Deliver (3‑D) process.
This gives you a repeatable way to lead with clarity and grow your leadership identity with confidence.
DISCOVER: Spot Where Misalignment Is Costing You Trust
Before you improve anything, reflect on where things have gone off course.
Ask yourself:
- Have I been disappointed by outcomes that didn’t match my intent?
- Did I explain what I wanted, or assume they knew?
- Did I check in midway, or only see the final result?
Red flags to look for:
- Vague instructions
- Silence mistaken for understanding
- Late reviews that catch issues too late to fix
Jorge names the pattern:
“New leaders assume that because they said it, the other person understood it the way they meant it. But unless you get explicit confirmation, you are just hoping.”
Fix It with an Expectation Audit:
- Reflect on past misunderstandings
- Ask team members to repeat back expectations in their own words
- Watch for hesitation to ask questions, as this signals fear, not clarity
DESIGN: Build a Simple Habit That Makes You a Clear Leader
Once you spot the gaps, structure your approach so you never have to guess again.
Elements of Clear Expectations:
- Outcome: What exactly should be delivered?
- Process: Are there specific steps or tools to use?
- Timeline: When is it due, and what check-ins will happen?
- Resources: What support or templates are needed?
- Success Criteria: How will the work be evaluated?
Best Practices for Emerging Leaders:
- Don’t assume. Ask them to restate what they heard
- Break large tasks into smaller steps
- Encourage questions, and reward clarity-seeking
Jorge offers a test:
“The key is to ask, ‘Do you understand what is expected, and do you agree to it?’ Until you hear ‘Yes, I commit to delivering exactly that,’ you do not have an expectation, you have a vague request.”
Fix It with an Expectation Alignment Session:
- Hold a quick meeting before starting major work
- Confirm expectations in writing to eliminate ambiguity
DELIVER: Follow Through Without Sounding Like a Micromanager
Setting expectations is the start.
Following up is what builds your leadership credibility.
Here’s how to do it without hovering:
1. Midway Check-Ins
Frequent, low-pressure touchpoints keep things on track and give your team confidence.
2. Create a Feedback Loop
After each project, ask if the expectations worked and if they were clear.
3. Encourage Accountability
Praise those who deliver.
Coach those who miss through clarity, not criticism.
Jorge’s reminder still echoes:
“Leadership is about clarity. If your team constantly fails to meet expectations, the problem is not them, it is you.”
Fix It with a Follow-Up Strategy:
- Ask for brief progress updates before deadlines
- Debrief after projects to improve expectation-setting next time
Credibility Starts with Clarity, From Day One
You don’t have to be perfect to earn respect as a leader.
But you do have to be clear.
By mastering the art of expectation-setting, you:
- Build trust with your team
- Get more consistent results
- Grow your confidence without micromanaging
Key Takeaways:
- Don’t assume. Clarify explicitly
- Confirm understanding, not just agreement
- Follow up early, not just at the end
- Invite questions. Silence isn’t clarity
You don’t need years of experience to lead with clarity.
You need structure, consistency, and a willingness to align early and often.
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